“Words” Depends On How One Dress and Caress Situations

  It is not what you say, but how you say it.  Often times when good or bad experiences happen it becomes difficult to think of the “right” words to say.  Every occasion seem to have themes that require certain character and conduct. Some characters carry more flavor than others because comments expressed may not all the time be appreciated.  One of the reasons is because words are often misinterpreted and taken the wrong way.  Although, the words people use add character to frames of context like cultural foods that introduce distinct tastes there still should be a way of addressing problems to arrive at workable solutions.  Distinct and sometimes distasteful flavors are not welcomed, but they could be appreciated in other ways.  For example, in some cases when words slip unconsciously they could never be taken back just as some tastes could never be acquired.  Strangely it is difficult to add the right tinge to some recipes that have a little too much of something for certain taste buds.  Some recipes go from bitter to sweet and sweet to bitter.  The point is a slip of the tongue often destroys even the best intentions of a message and is irreversible once the damage is done. 

There may be some validity in what a person is saying about a particular subject matter, but their selection or choice of words potentially destroys the message and the messenger.  Anger, hostility, frustrations, resentment, and ridicule potentially bring out inappropriate words and conduct.  Merely refining a statement by indicating the specifics of words like “some, several, various, more or less” narrows members of audiences that may or may not be affected by certain accusations.  In essence, over generalizing statements often leads to issues of mistrust and distrust among audiences who trivialize over human rights.  Depending on how words are selected could make the difference in how one receives the message.  The importance of choosing words makes a differentiation in the appropriate dressing and caressing of over and understated messages.

Nicolla Tebao resides in Houston, TX. She is currently earning her doctorate in Organizational Management with an emphasis in Leadership. She can be contacted at ntebao@sbcglobal.net.

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